Becca Whiting

Happy Valentines Day

Becca Whiting
Happy Valentines Day
Photo Credit: @Priscilladupreez

Photo Credit: @Priscilladupreez


I know that today isn’t to everyones taste. Personally, I don’t love it, nor do I hate it. It’s just a day. I’m not going to dedicate ONE overrated day to loving my boyfriend more than I have any other day of our lives. I love him every single day!!!

But Valentines Day to me shouldn’t just be about loving your partner.. It should be about loving in general life. Loving your spouse, friends, family and most importantly.. YOURSELF! The key to having a great relationship and indeed a great life is to have a healthy self-image and to love yourself in a healthy way. Because if you can’t love yourself, how do you expect to love anyone else?

So for today’s post, I want to dedicate this is everyone out there. Who ever you may be and remember to LOVE YOURSELF! There is no one else like you, you’re your own unique person. If there is only one lesson you learn this entire year and for the rest of your life, it’s this: You are absolutely the most important person in your entire universe.

Your entire life is lived through your eyes. Your interactions with the world and those around you, your thoughts and how you interpret events, relationships, actions, and words. You might just be another person when it comes to the grand scheme of things, but when it comes to your understanding of reality, you are the only thing that matters. And because of that, your reality depends on how much you love and take care of you. Your relationship with yourself is the most defining factor in shaping the kind of life you live. The less you love yourself, listen to yourself, and understand yourself, the more confused, angry, and frustrating your reality will be.But when you begin and continue to love yourself, the more everything you see, everything you do, and everyone you interact with, starts to become a little bit better in every way possible. - Hack Spirit

2019 is the year for me of self love. I have spent far too long not liking/loving certain aspects of myself. That’s including physical things and things that I mentally think about myself. And so far, I have stopped any negativity towards myself and felt so so so much happier. Having a positive mindset really improves how you live your life day to day. And even though we’re nearly 2 months into the new year, I’ve noticed a huge difference in myself and I am loving it so much.

It was never easy to get to this point in my life.. It’s taken me 20 years to finally accept who I am and appreciate myself. I’ve always doubted myself as a person, my abilities, my passions.. Everything. And now I am taking each day as they come and making the most of them because I cannot be down all the time. It’s really not healthy. Yes, there are days were I will be down.. Everybody has those days (definitely not about to start singing a Hannah Montanna song.. LOL) it’s natural. It’s human! But I try to be happy every single day and be positive and it changes the outlook on your life.. So here are a few things that could possibly help you on the way to loving yourself more:

1) Think about how you treat others that are in your life.. Treating them with respect, loving every aspect of them, helping them grow, giving them good advice.. Now treat yourself that way.

2) Take care of your body, your mind and your needs.

3) No one in life is perfect.. So accept the flaws and faults that you have.

4) Ask yourself, what piece of advice would you tell your younger self about the person you are today?

5) Any passions that you have, make them a priority and go for it! Share your talents with everyone no matter what people think. You only have one life so don’t miss any chances on doing what you love.

6) Surround yourself with true, meaningful people in your life that you know that love, care and respect you. Block out any toxic people that may be trying to put you down.

7) Reflecting on your mistakes can help you to forgive and forget. If you can look back at some poor choices you may have made, and forgive yourself, you can start to move on and forget about the past. Loving yourself despite any mistakes you made in the past is great for your self-worth.

8) Celebrate your achievements! Just like when you list your accomplishments, it’s good to actually celebrate your achievements. Give yourself the credit you deserve.

“When I loved myself enough, I began leaving whatever wasn't healthy. This meant people, jobs, my own beliefs and habits – anything that kept me small.  My judgement called it disloyal. Now I see it as self-loving.”
– Kim McMillen

I hope that everyone is having a wonderful day no matter what you’re doing. Not just because it’s Valentines Day.. It will be all over tomorrow. It’s just a day.. But whatever you are doing today, tomorrow, next week.. I hope that your day is amazing as you are! x